If you’re new here, welcome. I’m Lisa, your Divorce Coach.

Think of me as your strategic partner and guide through divorce, offering emotional support, financial insight, legal clarity, and practical solutions — all in one.

Yup, I am a package deal. 😁
In the spirit of tactical tips, here is…

💔 My Story

One of the biggest points of contention in my own divorce was the matrimonial home.

I was pregnant with my second child, caring for a six-year-old, and trying to hold everything together while my ex wanted nothing to do with the kids or me.

My top priority was simple: STABILITY — keeping my kids in their home and school, and minimizing disruption.

But there was this thing called COVID. 😷
The housing market skyrocketed. 🚀
With every passing month, the home value climbed and my buyout amount kept increasing.

My ex used that as leverage — threatening, bargaining, and trying to gain power in other areas of our settlement, such as spousal support.

That’s when I realized: when the home becomes a battleground, it’s never just about the number.

It’s about control, fear, and power — on both sides.

💬 Why This Happens

When one person won’t budge on the home value, it’s often because:
➡️ They’re emotionally attached to the home and what it represents
➡️ They fear losing financial security or control
➡️ The market is volatile, and no one wants to “lose”
➡️ Disagreement over appraisals, comparables, or deductions adds fuel

When money becomes emotional, perspective disappears. And sometimes, humanity too.

💣 Here’s The Truth

No one, I mean not your lawyer, not your realtor, not even an economist, knows where the real estate market will go tomorrow.

Anyone who claims to know is lying.
So how can you decide in the face of uncertainty? 

⭐ What You Can Do

✅ Get a professional appraisal (not just a realtor estimate)
✅ Explore mediation or arbitration before escalating to court
✅ Understand refinancing or buyout options early
✅ Know when to let your lawyer step in

🧭 Anchor Yourself

When the ground feels shaky, focus on:
➡️ Facts over feelings – Let data, not emotion, lead your decisions.
➡️ What YOU can control – Your mindset, your documentation, your next step.
➡️ Preparation beats reaction – The calmer and more organized you are, the stronger you’ll stand.
You can’t control your ex. But how you RESPOND will shape the outcome.

🧠 Remember This

When your ex won’t agree on the house value, it’s not about the math.
It’s about fear.
It’s about control.

When you learn to anchor in facts, not fear, you’ll see where you can let go. And once you shift the energy, you shift the results.

 Photo by Jakub Żerdzicki on Unsplash