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Panic Zone, Comfort Zone, Stretch Zone: Where Are You Right Now?

divorce transformation May 03, 2025
 

When Eric and I first met, he was stuck in what I call the panic zone of divorce.

You might know the feeling—overwhelmed, exhausted, and questioning everything.
❓What’s the next step?
❓What will happen to my kids?
❓Who am I
now?
❓What will my future look like?

That’s where we began.

With every client, my first priority is to stabilize the chaos—to help them find their footing in what I call the comfort zone.
✔️Where you can breathe again.
✔️Sleep again.
✔️Make grounded decisions instead of emotional ones.

But we don’t stay there too long.
Because the real transformation?
It happens in the stretch zone.

That’s the space where you do hard things even when your voice shakes.
Where you show up for yourself again.
Where you begin to rebuild—not just your life, but your identity.

That’s exactly where Eric went.

Over the last 10 months, I’ve watched him rise—steadier, stronger, and more himself than ever.

✡️He first joined my Chaos to Clarity Divorce Mastermind, then transitioned into 1:1 coaching.
✡️And recently, he agreed to share his story on video.

He sent it while I was in Mexico. 🌮
I asked him afterwards, “How uncomfortable was it to record that?”

Eric said:

Not terrible… but definitely out of my comfort zone. Maybe a 6 out of 10.”

That’s the stretch zone in action.
And that’s how I know—he’s still growing.

I’m beyond proud of Eric and deeply grateful for his courage to share.

🗣️ We need to normalize conversations about divorce.
💬Not just the legal process, but the emotional, mental, and identity shifts that come with it.

If you’re in the thick of it right now…
Feeling stuck, lost, or like nothing is moving the needle…

Please know this:
You don’t have to stay there.
And you don’t have to do it alone.

Your stretch zone is waiting.
So is the next version of you.

Are you ready to embrace it?