Have you ever felt stuck between two choices and asked yourself:
❝ What if I make the wrong move? ❞
❝ What if I regret it? ❞

That was me recently.

With all the shifts happening in my life—both personally and professionally—I found myself seriously contemplating a big decision:
👉 Taking my kids to Mexico for four months.

The vision of living abroad has lived in my heart for years. In 2019, my then-husband and I even travelled to Costa Rica to scout real estate and schools for our family.

😷 Then COVID hit.
💔 He walked out.
🗂️ And that dream got shelved.

But lately, the idea resurfaced. I started researching schools, housing, finances, what to do with our cats—you name it.

And let me tell you: the indecision was exhausting.

Then 5 a.m. Saturday morning, clarity struck.

I asked myself the same question I ask my clients when they’re facing big life decisions:

“Are you moving toward something meaningful? Or are you moving away from something uncomfortable?”

And there it was—my truth.

I wasn’t chasing a long-held vision.
I was trying to escape my current frustration and overwhelm.

For me, leaving Canada now wasn’t a purpose-driven move.
It was an escape strategy.

Sure, it might feel exciting for a little while.
But it wouldn’t address the deeper truths I need to face:
📌 Building stability
📌 Being fully present with my kids
📌 Growing my business and career in alignment

Another layer revealed itself, too:
A part of me wanted to prove something.

“Look, even as a single mom, I can still do bold, beautiful things.”

But that desire was coming from my ego, not my purpose.

So, I made the decision to forgo the plan and felt a huge sense of relief. 

Not because I’m scared.
Not because the logistics won’t work.
But because I realized:

True clarity doesn’t come from changing your environment.
It comes from changing the story within.

This decision-making framework applies to so many divorce-related crossroads:

🎯 Are you staying in your marriage because you truly believe in rebuilding it?
Or because you’re afraid of being alone?

🎯 Are you drawn to a new relationship because it aligns with your values and vision for the future?
Or because it feels easier than confronting what’s unresolved in your current partnership?

🎯 Are you fighting for full custody because it's genuinely in your child’s best interest?
Or is it coming from a place of fear, hurt, or wanting to regain control?

⚡None of these questions is easy. And there’s no universally right or wrong answer.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

🌟 When we move toward something—growth, healing, alignment—it feels expansive. Long-term. Grounded. Even when it feels scary, it’s led by heart and guided by purpose. 

✨ When we move away from something—pain, fear, uncertainty—it often feels reactive, tight, limiting, and short-lived. It’s driven by ego. And it usually keeps us stuck.

🌱 So, what decision are you wrestling with right now?

I invite you to ask:

Am I moving toward healing, growth, clarity, and love?
Or simply trying to escape the discomfort I don’t yet want to face?