In March 2020, my then-husband of 12 years told me he had “fallen in love with someone else.”
I was 18 weeks pregnant.

Stunned, I walked to the pond beside our house.
For a split second, the thought of jumping into it to end the unbearable pain crossed my mind.
But I stayed.

I stood there for a long time, frozen.

COVID had just begun.
He was determined to leave.
I did not beg him to stay.

Drowning in confusion, I looked at my 5-year-old son and said:
“We will not only survive this… we will thrive.”
The thing is, I had absolutely no idea HOW.

But I initiated the legal separation.
Four months later, my daughter was born.
Soon after, he said he could no longer “play Dad” and never saw the kids again. 

I became a shell of myself — holding the kids, the business, the cats, the house, the finances — all while fighting an ex who wanted every penny and zero responsibility.

Two mediators. One lawyer.
Three years.
$30,000 in legal fees later.
Came the divorce.

But my god…
What an emotionally, financially, and physically draining process.
As I slowly gathered myself, I wondered, "Is there another way?"

Even though I had great support — mediators, lawyers, therapists, accountants — everyone worked in silos. No one saw the whole human whose entire identity was being dismantled.

And that’s when it clicked:
Divorce isn’t just a legal process.
It’s an identity transformation.

It breaks the version of you who lived for others
and calls forward the version who lives in TRUTH.

Your truth!

It forces you to meet the parts of yourself you abandoned.
It shows you your strength in the moments you think you have none.
It demands radical honesty, boundaries, clarity, and courage.

It asks you to release the parts of you that no longer serve your becoming
so you can return home to who you are meant to be.

That’s why I became a Divorce Transformation Coach:

→ to help overwhelmed, ambitious men and women lead their divorce with clarity
→ to protect your time, money, kids, and peace, no matter what chaos surrounds you
→ to walk with you through the identity rebirth you don’t yet know you’re capable of

Today, I’m building a soul-aligned business and fulfilling my vision to help 100 people transform their lives through divorce. My kids are thriving — joyful, grounded, whole — even without a father in their lives.

If I could rebuild my life from the deepest chaos, you can rise from yours too.

Your divorce is not your downfall.
It is your portal.
Your fire.
Your awakening.

You’re not meant to “get through” this.
You’re called to grow through it.
You’re not meant to just survive.
You’re here to THRIVE.

You are the phoenix in the fire. 🐦‍🔥
Are you ready to LEAD your rebirth?

Download my 6-Stage Divorce Transformation Journey Map (VOYAGE) —a simple guide to help you identify exactly where you are in your divorce transformation and what comes next.

Spoiler Alert: Most people get stuck in Stage 3 or 4. You don’t have to.

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